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The Narcissistic / Borderline Couple: New Approaches to Marital Therapy: A Psychoanalytic Perspective on Marital Treatment

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    Joan Lachkar(Author)

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In this second edition of her groundbreaking book, Dr. Joan Lachkar addresses the ever-changing faces and phases of narcissism within the context of marital therapy and discusses the new developments in the treatment of marital conflict. Drawing from many different theoretical frameworks, mainly self-psychology (Kohut) and object relations (Klein), the works of D.W, Winnicott, and Kernberg are expanded to further explain why couples stay in painful, conflictual, never-ending relationships (traumatic bonding). The new chapters, case illustrations, and updated treatment sequences are invaluable to both beginning and experienced clinicians. The Narcissistic / Borderline Couple is an essential text for every marital therapist, offering an improved understanding of marital pathology within the framework of our changing world.
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  • PDF | 262 pages
  • Joan Lachkar(Author)
  • Routledge; 2 edition (30 Sept. 2003)
  • English
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  • Health, Family & Lifestyle

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  • By Astrid Illner on 23 August 2017

    A person with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) is often deeply attracted by a person with NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) - it seems like an irresistible match - the one seeking the rescuer on the white horse, the other one determined to be exactly that. In the long run, a lot of unresolved issues can arise and circular problems often start to exist. The book describes very clearly underlying dynamics, gives dialogue examples and shows clearly possible ways for constructive solutions to the described problems.

  • By Sam Vaknin on 20 April 2004

    It takes two to tango – and to sustain a long-term abusive relationship. The abuser and the abused form a bond, a dynamic, and a dependence. Expressions such as "follies a deux" and the "Stockholm Syndrome (Trauma Bonding)" capture facets – two of a myriad – of this danse macabre. It often ends fatally. It is always an excruciatingly painful affair.Lachkar's grossly overlooked book is the best introduction I know of to abusive dyads comprised of two people with personality disorders. Replete with case studies and an impressive theoretical background (mainly, but not only, Object Relations Theories) - the book is a vade mecum for both professionals and sufferers.There is more to an abusive dyad than mere pecuniary convenience. The abuser – stealthily but unfailingly – exploits the vulnerabilities in the psychological makeup of his victim. The abused party may have low self-esteem, a fluctuating sense of self-worth, primitive defence mechanisms, phobias, mental health problems, a disability, a history of failure, or a tendency to blame herself, or to feel inadequate (autoplastic neurosis). She may have come from an abusive family or environment – which conditioned her to expect abuse as inevitable and "normal". In extreme and rare cases – the victim is a masochist, possessed of an urge to seek ill-treatment and pain. Sam Vaknin, author of "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited".

  • By Kindle Customer on 13 October 2011

    It is hard enough to grasp what is going on when one significant person we know is relating to us or others in an unfathomable way. Faced with a couple whose enduring dynamic seems relentlessly corrosive and yet essential to them, the observer may feel totally perplexed, whether in a domestic or professional situation. Joan Lachkar's authoritative book portrays this dysfunctional duo in all its agonising patterns of circular, repetitive behaviours and interactions, and gives us a variety of platforms in order better to understand precisely what is going on, what needs the destructive bond is actually meeting at a primitive level, and how a break in this cruel circuitry may eventually be achieved. It is impossible to read her detailed analysis of the psychological inner worlds which clash so painfully in this sort of traumatic bond without sensing her compassion, and her drive to go beyond her expert weaving of appropriate theories to actually achieving a qualitative difference in the lives of these embattled sufferers. Reading her book inspired me in my own writing on this subject, not only because of the detailed knowledge she provides but because of the hope she gives to the reader that these wounding entanglements can be painstakingly unravelled to allow the development of a more assured sense of personal identity and a true place in the world.

  • By Manto Mainta on 5 March 2014


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